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About She Had 3

I've been a nurse for over 35 years and was diagnosed with idiopathic nephrotic syndrome in 1994, progressing to end-stage renal disease in 2004. I've had a myriad of health issues including 3-kidney transplants, an autoimmune skin disorder, hemorrhage, and cancer. All these experiences have led me to the point of sharing my experiences with you. This is a story of faith, perseverance, experiences, and strength over the span of 29 years. I've never looked back while going through this. My journey is ongoing with my husband, doctor, friends, and family. I hope to inspire anyone going through a difficult time without hope. I was encouraged to tell my story by my Sista friend (2nd donor) and my doctor I am also an avid foodie, an honest reviewer of restaurants and products for Influenster. I also consider myself to be a people advocate, and a continuous learner.

Holiday Blues

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The holiday blues can start right after Halloween. Everything accelerates with the focus being Christmas. Targeted advertising starts and gives you a feeling of being behind with anxiety creeping into your life. The holiday blues can come from the loss of a loved one, lack of family, finances, and whatever centers your life.

My thinking and feelings become more intense around this time. I lost my mother in 1994 and was the one who found her dead. I did not realize how much she centered our family. After her death, things were never the same. When the holidays came around, I couldn’t wait for them to disappear. Certain songs sent me into a tailspin of tears. How did it get better? It became bearable by honoring her name, remembering how funny she was, and the great food, allowing myself to feel sad without guilt, and also spending time with people that I enjoyed being around.

Tips for dealing with Holiday Blues. https://imstilljosh.com/positive-beating-holiday-blues/

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Self Care

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Remember that self care is not selfish. L Myers MSN RNC CSN

“ʙʏ ᴛᴀᴋɪɴɢ ᴄᴀʀᴇ ᴏғ ᴍʏsᴇʟғ ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ sᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴏғғᴇʀ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴏʀʟᴅ ᴛʜᴀɴ ɪ ᴅᴏ ᴡʜᴇɴ ɪ ᴀᴍ ʀᴜɴɴɪɴɢ ᴏɴ ᴇᴍᴘᴛʏ.” Anonymous

A School Nurse’s Well-Deserved Day Off

Friday marked the end of the school year for elementary students, bringing a sense of relief to the school nurses who often grapples with a multitude of responsibilities. Eager to embrace the much-needed break, I devoted the day to rejuvenating my spirit. My self-care routine included indulging in a hydrafacial, tidying up my brows, visiting a plant store, and exploring a new boutique for accessories. The day concluded on a delightful note, as my husband and I savored the enchanting Christmas lights display at Dilworth Park. All in all, it was a truly gratifying first day off.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8x1Qgkn/

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Lessons

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I saw this post on social media and I had to share. It feels great to leave people where they are.

When people act shady, allow them. When people betray your trust, allow them. But never, ever sink to their level. Their choices are a direct reflection of who they are, not who you are. No matter how angry, hurt, or disappointed you may be – do not allow them to make you bitter. Be better. React with love. Sometimes that means retaliating with understanding and compassion; other times it means retaliating with acceptance and sheer silence. Whatever it is, make sure it benefits you as a human being instead of lowering you into a position which you would rather not be in. Normal people dont go around destroying other human beings. Only those who are hurt, lost, and confused cause pain. Don’t be one of them. Just take the lessons and move on gracefully.

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Appreciation

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Have I’ve noticed that when you consistently show kindness to someone, it becomes their expectation. It might seem like the appreciation diminishes over time because the receiver perceives this as part of the routine. But fear not, my friend! The solution is simple: continue being your wonderful self, but perhaps dial it back just a smidge. The beauty of giving is that it brings a boost of euphoria to both parties involved. “Thank you” goes a long way, so never become complacent with acts of kindness.

Beauty Contest

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After all that I have been through regarding my health, I came across a Beauty Contest Fab Over 40. I’m 58 years old and I’ve had 3 kidney transplants so I decided to go for it.

Hey, please vote in the link starting tomorrow October 9th @ 10:00 Am Pacific time (1:00 pm EST).
Thank you in advance.💕

https://votefab40.com/2023/lisa-myers-2

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Respect your elders

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After work, I had some errands to run and my 1st stop was CVS to pick up my medication. I saw the cutest elderly woman, she was walking with a cane. I asked her to go in front of me and she asked if she could sit so I could call her when it was her turn. I called out to her to let her know that she was next. She struggled with her cane and I felt so bad for her I told her to lean on the cart so that she was balanced. She thanked me and told me that she buried her 2 daughters. 

I told her it was my mother’s birthday, how much I missed her, and that I had 3 consecutive dreams. She said well maybe she’s trying to tell you something and I said well I’m tired because she is wearing me out. We laughed together. As we age society treats it as a loss of worth. Listening shows interest, caring, and understanding.

Those who respect the elderly pave their own road toward success.” -Unknown

Respect your elders

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Mothers are Your 1st Best Friend❤️

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Today is my mom’s birthday and I’m wishing her a happy heavenly birthday. She was a fun loving, unselfish, kind-hearted person. Of course she had flaws but don’t we all. She was good to everyone, sometimes I was jealous of that because I wanted her all to myself. She was there for people and did not look for credit or applause for her deeds. v

I had a friend that was graduating from high school one year before me and she told me that no one was coming. She became close with my mother and I explained her situation. My mom got dressed up, bought balloons and was the loudest one at her graduation. She did lots of things like that. The last 3 nights I have had dreams about my mom, I consider myself lucky. “A mother is your first friend, your best friend, your forever friend.” anonymous

A mother can be anyone that gives you unconditional love. Whose yours?

𝗙𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀

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I’ve had several friends, associates, people in my life who I became close with. The saying is true, friendships are about seasons, reasons, and timing. You’ll know when it’s time to move on. It may become draining, uncomfortable, and exhausting to the point of dreading a conversation with the person. You have to love yourself, wish them well, and move on.

ғᴏʀᴇᴠᴇʀ ɪs ᴛᴏᴅᴀʏ, ᴛᴏᴍᴏʀʀᴏᴡ ɪs ɴᴏᴛ ᴘʀᴏᴍɪsᴇᴅ

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I was restless the other night and woke up at 2:15 am with a thought: “Forever is today, tomorrow is not promised.” Last year my family experienced the unexpected loss of my niece. I couldn’t imagine the pain my sister experienced; the loss of a child is the worst thing a parent could endure. It brought us closer.

There has also been an increase in the death of classmates. Death is a reality for everyone, making you question your mortality. I have been close to death due to complications from a surgical procedure. Tomorrow is not promised, so live your life today. Tell and show your loved ones and friends how much they mean to you. My Aunt Delores once said to me, “Love is an action.”